Sometimes, or most of the times we learn a new thing and take a pledge to inculcate that particular thing & make it a habit pattern. But, does that really happen? Most of the time, the answer would be a big ‘NO’.
Why are we not able to develop a new habit easily?
- Because you are still identifying with your old habits.
- You think they are part of you.
Imagine a smoker for a second.
If they start to quit and still count the days they quit, they will not keep up.
Because they are considering themselves a smoker who has been smoke-free for x days.
But when that smoker stops identifying with being a smoker, then it doesn’t matter how many days they had any more.
They will not count the days because they do not care anymore.
They are not relating to smoking at all!
On top of that, you do not know why you want the new habit.
Sure, it is nice to do some things, and probably pretty practical, but so what?
If you are not invested in the new habit then you will not keep it!
It’s the same thing, just backward!
If you do not identify with the new habit it won’t matter.
A “night owl” who wants to become a “morning person” will not become one until they think of themselves as a “morning person”.
Then it is just something they do.
It is just part of them.
So if you want to take up the habit of (as an example) playing 1 hour on your guitar every day, then as long as you do not consider yourself a dedicated guitarist, you will probably not keep that habit up.
But as soon as you tell yourself that you are one, you will probably spend multiple hours a day practicing, because you are dedicated!
Your Life Goals are Not Your Habits
Your audacious life goals are fabulous. We’re proud of you for having them. But it’s possible that those goals are designed to distract you from the thing that’s really frightening you—the shift in daily habits that would mean a re–invention of how you see yourself.
— Seth Godin
It’s nice to know what you want and having goals gives you a sense of direction and purpose. However, your hopes and dreams actually sabotage you from becoming better: your desires can easily lure you into biting off more than you can chew.
- You get inspired by The Biggest Loser, head to the gym, bust your butt to the point of exhaustion, and take the next three months off to recover.
- You finally get that urge to write your book, write all day over the weekend, and then go back to work on Monday and never come back to it.
- You’re motivated by your friend’s stories of traveling to new countries, so you start to plan your own around–the–world trip, only to end up overwhelmed by all the details and stay at home.
I know, I know. It’s not nearly as sexy as saying you lost 40 kgs in 3 months.
So how do we balance our desire to make life–changing transformations with the need to develop a new habit?
Here are Top 7 Ways to Develop a new Habit:
First, make a decision. Decide clearly that you are going to begin acting in a specific way most of the time. For example, if you decide to arise early and exercise each morning, set your clock for a specific time, and when the alarm goes off, immediately get up, put on your exercise clothes and begin your exercise session.
2) Don’t make excuses at all
Second, never allow an exception to your new habit pattern during the formative stages. Don’t make excuses. Don’t let yourself off the hook. If you resolve to get up at 6:00 AM each morning, discipline yourself to get up at 6:00 AM, every single morning until this becomes a habit.
3) Share your new habit plan with others
Tell others that you are going to develop a new habit. It is amazing how much more disciplined and determined you will become when you know that others are watching you see if you have the willpower to follow through on your resolution.
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Visualize yourself performing or behaving in a particular way in a particular situation. The more often you visualise and imagine yourself acting as if you already had the new habit, the more rapidly this new behaviour will be accepted by your subconscious mind and become automatic.
Create an affirmation that you repeat over and over to yourself. This repetition dramatically increases the speed at which you develop the new habit. For example, you can say something like, “I get up and get going immediately at 6:00 AM each morning!” Repeat these words the last thing before you fall asleep. In most cases, you will automatically wake up minutes before the alarm clock goes off, and soon you will need no alarm clock at all.
Keep practising until it enters into your behaviour pattern & it becomes so automatic and easy that you actually feel uncomfortable when you do not do what you have decided to do.
Most important, give yourself a reward of some kind for practising in the new behaviour. Each time you reward yourself, you reaffirm and reinforce the behaviour. Soon you begin to associate, at an unconscious level, the pleasure of the reward with the behaviour. You set up your own force field of positive consequences that you unconsciously look forward to as the result of engaging in the behaviour or habit that you have decided upon & you are on your way to develop a new habit easy & quick.
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Life goals are good to have because they provide direction, but they can also trick you into taking on more than you can handle. Daily habits — tiny routines that are repeatable — are what make big dreams a reality.
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